How to Deal with Narcissist Toxic People.
Toxic relationships can be hard to manage and while it is usually best to cut ties with these people, sometimes it is just not possible. Today, I’ll be sharing my tips for handling these difficult individuals.
Keep your interactions to a minimum.
Set clear boundaries. Because Toxic people are more likely to overstep them. When they do, in a very calm, matter of fact way, tell them how you feel and reinforce that that’s unacceptable. This is a really important step in your ability to manage a distant-yet-doable relationship with someone that has a difficult personality.
Be ready to reinforce the boundaries that you’ve created. The nature of toxic people is to test boundaries. After you set them, be prepared to defend them. They may be testing you on purpose or they may have just forgotten your ground rules. Regardless of their intent, stick to your guns!
Figure out why you have become a target. Toxic people tend to target individuals that they deem easy prey. Are you extremely kind and caring? Do you try to help people at any cost? People that are kind, good listeners, and willing to admit their own faults make perfect prey for toxic people. Recognize these traits within yourself and be aware if others are exploiting them.
Don’t try to justify their abusive actions because of past trauma, or whatever other excuse they may have. We’ve all experienced different traumatic things in life. That’s no excuse for doing what toxic people do. As adults, we all have the power to make our own decisions.
Now if it gets to the point where, you can’t take it any more, then the following tips are for you:
Ask yourself if you need to be around this person. If you are dealing with a significant other, a roommate, or a family member, you need to think about what is best for you in the long-term. Perhaps you have had some short-term positives with this person, but if keeping them in your life has fewer pros than cons, it is time to consider cutting the cord.
Take the necessary measures to ensure your well being. If it is a boss, go to the HR department. If it’s your child’s teacher, consider asking the school to put your child in a different class. You owe it to yourself to do what’s right for you or your child.
If you find that they’ve controlled others around you to the degree that you can’t go above them, then you’re going to need to go about things differently. This may mean moving your child to another school, changing jobs, or even moving into a different apartment. I know it doesn’t seem fair, but it just is what it is. The most important thing is that you be at peace.
While annoying, every person will at some point come across a toxic person. Use the tips that I’ve given you and be sure to remember that you deserve to be happy and drama free just like anybody else. For more information on how you can become stronger and more in your own power, feel free to go to my website.